Many people through anxiety, including myself can go through a stage of depression and self-pity. This in turn can bring on feelings of fatique and a lack of motivation. They can also develop a bad diet and a total lack of fitness, what is the point when I feel like this they may think. In my own recovery I put little importance on foods and excercise, but it turn out to be a large part of how I felt overall, again it is not the only answer, but it can have a large overall effect on how you feel.

I went out no matter how I felt, depressed, anxious, panicky, I was sick of anxiety ruling what I did and did not do, so I went walking, running, swimming and also looked at what I ate. The improvement was easy to see, our body is like a car and the more we look after it the better it runs. Not only did I feel better, it also gave me the extra confidence I needed to address my other problems, it gave me the motivaton to really move forward in my struggle with anxiety. Instead of sitting at home wallowing in self-pity, I began to take more of an interest in other things, something else took over my thoughts and my day.

I always tell people the importance of going out in the fresh air, taking up a new hobby, something to break the chain of self-pity and depression, exercise is one of the best mood lifters there is, it also helps burn all the stress chemicals that can build up during the day, some people ask me how they feel stressed and irritable when they are sat still? The answer is they are filled with stress that needs a release, it needs an outlet and excercise gives it this. So no matter how you feel, take control of your life and do try to go out there and do something, you never know you might just enjoy it.


well the little uns ate themselves silly with turkey and giblet friskies… leave it to friskies to have just about every cat flavor variety imaginable… but the little guys just loved it… last week we brought over a bag of cat toys for them… which mostly consisted of different types of balls (jingle, foam, rubber) and mice in felt and string… and a tinsel-like ball… well these guys… they PLAY… and it is great… because now they just love to come up to me… and its like… ‘come on throw the ball!’… i collect about all of them and roll them across the room… and they are in various poses of hiding/stalking… they hide behind a box… a table leg… and winston hides behind a flannel rag… (s) well they leap out and bat the ball around as they pass… it is so cool to see 4 kitty-kats just running together to swat at these toys… they love to look out the window at the terrace… winston actually ran into the glass door trying to stalk a pidgeon… i know willow did that when she was around his age… thankfully it takes just one of those to get the message that well it may be see-through but man its solid!… well they are hopefully a little more tired than normal tonight… i know that these guys played into my thanksgiving this year!

Through suffering of anxiety most people also develop depression, this can then lead to feelings of self-pity and make the person feel worthless. The feelings of depression can occur because anxiety has a tendency to crush our spirit and make us feel emotionally spent, also we begin to see no way out from the way we feel and have nothing to look forward to. I also went through depression with my anxiety and got caught in the cycle of being depressed because I was depressed. I realised that if I was to recover from anxiety then I was to have no self pity, if I felt down then I felt down there was nothing I could do about this, what I would try to do is not be filled with self-pity and make myself worse.
The best thing you can do with feelings of depression through anxiety is to tell yourself the way you feel is temporary and start to invite new things into your day, don’t let how you feel dominate your day. I started to take walks and go for a swim to shake the cobwebs off how I was feeling, this helped me greatly and it gave me anotdepressedher focus to my day instead of focusing on myself. I believe that nature and a natural diet can be great mood lifters and also ease the feelings of anxiety, going out for a run or a walk, taking some daily exercise is far better than sitting at home brooding on how you feel. Exercise in itself releases endorphins which are great for lifting your mood, also exercise burns off all those stress chemicals than can built up through the day.
Your thought pattern is also very important when over coming anxiety and depression, too many people think negatively when they feel how they do, this is understandable but is counter productive and becomes a habit, the habit to always think negative which in turn makes us feel worse and crushes are spirit even more. Watch out for all the negative thinking and try and change your thought pattern, instead of saying ‘This is me now I just want to curl up and hide’ say ‘I don’t feel great at the moment but I am going to make the changes and come through this’ instead of saying ‘I have nothing to look forward to and I hate my life’ say ‘Life is what I make it from now, the only person that can make changes is me, this is just a  part of my life that I will come through’. There are many different things you can say to yourself, but the main thing is to try and have as little self-pity as possible, to see the good in the day instead of all the bad, to come through this time a better, stronger person.
I came through my depression and it was because I made the changes above, these changes also helped me after my recovery, I am a far more confident person than I was before my own suffering and I tend to always see the good in my life. This all came about because I understand the importance of being positive, this now has become my new habit and my life is so much richer for it. I am also very proud that I stayed positive and came through this very tough part of my life; this has given me a new inner strength, a strength that I can overcome anything. I now no longer worry about anything I cannot change, if I learnt one thing it is that worrying is the most useless emotion we have and serves us no purpose whatsoever.